Am not speaking as an observer but as a victim. For several years I have had anger issues, they started when I was still young to date. Honestly speaking I don't really know what caused them, but that doesn't really matter right now, does it ?; what really matters is what am going to do about them, what you are going to do about them.
Back in the years I never thought my anger issues where are big deal, so I never did anything about them, but now as a grown-up, I have seen how those issues really affected me and the people I love and care about. I always gave the excuse that it was just in me until I realized it wasn't right and I had to do something
How to Deal With Anger
So I think the best way to deal with your anger issues is :
1. Accept that you have a problem
2.Deal with them
Starting My Anger Management Journey
Admitting that you have a problem and doing something about it are two different things. It has been years since admitted I had to work on them & I have been procrastinating ever since.
But well I think it's high time I deal with this for my own sake, for the people I have loved & lost, for the people I love & who are still in my life, and for the people am going to love in the near future.
But well I think it's high time I deal with this for my own sake, for the people I have loved & lost, for the people I love & who are still in my life, and for the people am going to love in the near future.
Am a bookworm, so as a way to deal with this ..getting a self-help book is what first came into my mind. Well, I hope it helps.
The first book I am going to read is Anger Management Best Practice Handbook by Jessalyn Woodruff.
Am going to share my journey here and share the feedback
ANGER MANAGEMENT BEST PRACTICE HANDBOOK
So I finished reading the book ( am a fast reader and the book was just 122 pages ). The book has so many lessons but I was reading from the point of view of my current situation. So the thing is it's okay to be angry, you are human after all, the issue is how do you handle your anger. Make sure how you handle your anger doesn't affect you or the people close to you.
So here it is :
1. What triggers your anger?
Try looking for what triggers you, people don't get angry out of nowhere. So try finding out in what situations are you really angry.
2.How do you handle anger?
- Suppression
- Open aggression
- Passive Aggression
- Assertiveness
- Dropping it
When it comes to the way people express their anger, some people get verbal, physical, some people suppress it which could lead to depression. All of these ways lead to no good.
3. Handling your anger in a proper way (Tame your anger)
There are so many ways to deal with this, but the one I thought could really work for me is journaling. That is the moment you feel triggered then don't say anything after; take your time and write exactly what you feel and why you feel that way.
That will help you cool off, and you can later talk to the person who triggered you in a much calm way.
Avoid
1. Blaming others for your anger
2.Expressing your anger through the phone or text messages
Click here to download the book
Help me answer these questions in the comment section below ;
1. Do you have anger issues?
2. If yes, what have you done about them?
3. Have you ever met or lived with a person with anger issues?
4. What do you think are the causes of anger (from your experience or from a psychological point of view )?
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