BOOK TITLE: Strong Women Only Intimidate Weak men
AUTHOR: FARRAH GRAY
Smart people are supposed to be able to figure things out, right? Yet when it comes to dating, they are often left out in the cold. Most people – OK, I’m going to say, average people – have a pretty good combination of street smarts and social sense to live comfortably in our world and successfully enjoy the dating process. But those folks that are more apt to have a lot of smarts (or book sense) often encounter troubles when it comes to finding a suitable mate or even enjoying the dating scene.
Now I’m not saying brilliant people are social morons. Not at all. But you have to admit; smart women especially have more trouble dating than their “average” peers. Here are a few reasons why:
• Smart people tend to focus more on achievements than social activities when growing up. When most kids are out playing, they’re inside banging out a piano lesson or studying something. They are the ones that get good grades and at 13 are already thinking about what college they are going to attend. Proms and hayrides and teenage shenanigans are on the backburner and so are the social lessons that come with them.
• Smart people believe their hard work will earn them love. Again, it goes back to how they were brought up. Chances are their parents were smart people, too, and they were rewarded hugely when they achieved something, such as straight As or first prize at the science fare. That’s when they got the kudos, the applause, the smiles, the pat on the back and the “Oh, I’m so proud of you!” So their logic is… “If I continue to work hard, I will be loved, right?”
• Being smart is often their identity. That’s how people think of that person, not as a person with romantic feelings. And for a lady, being smart can be especially tough since you may not have been taught the things girls do… experiment with makeup, check out different hairstyles, consider fashions with your besties… you were busy studying or trying to figure out that physics equation. So now, you may not have the social graces that your peers do, which of course puts you at a disadvantage to the gals who know how to dress to impress.
• It’s difficult for you to be interested in someone not as smart as you.
• Time is not on your side. Since you have focused on achieving since you were a kid, that’s still a big part of your personality. It’s not in your persona now to blow off a workday and head to the beach with some brews and some boys or schedule a secret rendezvous in the middle of the afternoon with the special someone. Smart people tend to be workaholics who generally don’t put a lot of time into dating. It’s never too late to relax and lay the books down for a while.
Actually, the library can be a great place to meet somebody!
So what do you think, is that true? Don't hesitate to drop your comments down below.
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